I’ve been quiet in the blog world. Mainly because I haven’t had much to say. Shocker I know. Several clients have mentioned recently they missed my blogs, so I dug deep.
I meet all kinds of people in my industry. One pretty common denominator has been we are all tired. Run ragged. Exhausted. Feeling like there’s nothing left to give. How did we get here? It’s because we are too afraid to say no anymore. Too afraid we will damage our children. Too afraid we will be passed up for a job opportunity. Too afraid we won’t be liked. We are crumbling quickly.
Telling our children no is important to their development. This isn’t a world that we get everything we want. I don’t know about you, but I’m told no often in life. Telling them yes to every whim is going to set them up for failure and disappointment. So really you’re doing them a favor by saying no. My kids adapted well. Now they just ask Dad. Haha seriously though, they have stopped asking as often and accept no quite easily.
Taking all of the responsibility at work and being a yes man will only pile up. “If you won’t, we will find someone that will” is a common threat. What if you said no anyway? The thing is, we are becoming slaves to our jobs. We give our all 40+ hours a week and come home spent. I know when I started my business, I never said no. I was so afraid if I couldn’t get someone in they’d go somewhere else. That I’d never build. I was pouring my heart and soul into my business and missing out on my children. I had to find balance. I started saying no. I found that most understood and were willing to wait. Some didn’t and that’s ok. I still built my business and grow daily.
It doesn’t matter what you do for people, saying yes and building a friendship on yes isn’t going to make them loyal to you. It makes them loyal to their need of you. Use no and set boundaries. It’s ok to not be liked by everyone. You will never be able to please everyone. THAT IS OK. You do what you can do, do your best, and rest easy at night in the fact that you’ve done all you can do. I’ve had many “friends” that were only around if I was giving. Sometimes I have nothing left to give. They all ditched me. It was heartbreaking at the time. Then I realized that I didn’t need that in my life. God did me a favor by removing those people. They sucked the life out of me. Now I set boundaries. I say no. I do what I can do.
Saying no is hard. Once you start setting boundaries for yourself, you will be amazed at the peace you create in your life. Take care of you, and start by not accepting less than you deserve. Life is so very precious and it ends so suddenly. Don’t waste your precious hours being a slave to anyone or any thing!
He makes peace in your borders; he fills you with the finest of the wheat.