I am a person who FREAKS OUT. Like downward spiraling end of the world my life is over kind of freaking out. I'm finding this is pretty common in my group of friends. Fortunately, my husband knows when I'm panicking and he starts hovering and consoling like one of those thunder shirts for dogs. It's nice. Ha! Anyway, I'm trying to take my husbands advice. There are also a lot of great tools and tips on Pinterest for calming yourself down from a panic attack.
Yesterday I sat in my car bawling my eyes out. Too many people came at me wanting money, I'm overwhelmed about this class I'm taking, we always seem to have baby mama drama, and my babysitters fell through for tonight. So I sat and cried because what the hell else is there to do when the world is crashing down on you?! What's funny is, just last week I told my husband I'm proud of us and starting to feel secure about where we are in life. Then bam. Everything is doomed and we will never make it. (In my head anyway). So how do you see the light?! Once I finally pulled myself up out of the car I was able to think clearly. A) I can only give what I can give. B) this class is not even something to get worked up over. C) it's ok for someone to not like me…even if it's a baby mama. I know I'm doing all the right things and I can sleep easy at night knowing that I'm doing what is best for my family. D) the sitter thing was worked out in no time. So in hindsight, my meltdown helped the situation in no way at all. Had I just sat and thought rationally I could've worked it all out right then and a meltdown would've been avoided completely.
Changing your reaction to things is really something you have to practice and work at. It's probably something that is never truly perfected. We have a fight or flight sense naturally coursing through us. It's activated during turmoil. Mines more of a fight or breakdown into an emotional puddle of dramatic despair, but hey we all have our thing. The point is, when someone is in an accident we act first. Call 911, make sure everyone is ok, deal with what you're able to deal with and wait for help. You owe yourself the same courtesy. When things are hard, look around you. What's real? What's exaggerated in your head? What can you actually fix? What is completely out of your control? If it's out of your control, is freaking out going to help the situation?
Changing your thinking gives you power. It's definitely work, but worth it. I hope you all have a blessed day. ❤️
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7