I’ve been off and on this weight loss journey for about 4 years now. In that time I’ve lost myself, found myself, divorced, remarried, and had a baby. So I’m no where near my goal, but I’m on the right track. The most common questions I get are “how did you do it”, “where do you find time”, and “how do you stay motivated”. So here is how my journey has worked. But every story is not the same. What works for me may not work for you and vice versa. We all have our own story to tell, so make yours your own.
So how did I do it? First, I starved myself. I ate as little as possible and dropped 50lbs quick. But then I hit a plateau and couldn’t budge. Not to mention I was a major B-word bc I was freaking hungry. So then I started to do some learning, reading and digging. I learned my body actually needs calories and carbs to survive. I learned how to read food labels and grocery shop. I learned how to menu plan to prepare. I learned how to eat out without blowing my whole day. I learned to love exercise. I started digging into the why of being so overweight and addicted to food. I personally didn’t like something having so much power over me. So I needed to learn why I allowed it and how it got to be there. I was tired of being completely consumed by food. I began to really dive into my past and deal with the things I chose to ignore.
So what do I eat? Well, obviously I’m a work in progress bc after 4 years of ups and downs I’m still a size 16/18. But my day goes something like this…
Breakfast: protein shake…EAS lean protein powder, unsweetened almond milk, jif natural pb, and ice in a blender
Snack: apple and pb, OR a banana, OR carrots and ranch
Lunch: protein and veggie (chicken and broccoli) OR protein shake/bar
Snack: yogurt and berries
Dinner: I cook a meat and a veggie…only grill or bake
Sometimes you have to go out. I looked at the nutrition facts and chick fil a is always my go to. A salad at zaxbys has as much crap as the chicken finger plate so it’s not all that beneficial. If we go to CFA, I get the wrap, the BBQ grilled sandwich, or a grilled sandwich. I usually eat my fries so on those days, I’ll do a protein shake for my next meal.
How do I stay motivated? Well when I was a size 28 pants, I couldn’t go to the movies bc I didn’t fit in the chair. I refused to sit in a booth because I couldn’t fit between the booth and table. I didn’t go to amusement parks. I couldn’t play with my kids. I was becoming more and more home bound. If you know me, you know I’m not a solitary kind of person. I’d go to work and home. That keeps me motivated. Not to mention how much working out keeps my brain emotionally sound. I have been able to stay off depression and anxiety medication from working out. Now I don’t have a problem with medication, but I’m not ready to be devoted to a daily medication for the rest of my life. Makes me feel older I guess. I don’t want to be dependent on food or medicine to get by. So I found workouts at home at first. I really love Fitness Marshall on YouTube. It’s like Zumba. I added in 3lb weights when I started getting the moves down. Recently we joined the gym, but I made sure I committed to working out first. I did YouTube videos for almost 8 months before we signed up at the gym. So make sure you’re committed before signing contracts.
I also stay motivated by throwing away my scales and learning to love me. I make an honest effort to think positively of myself. I stopped talking about how fat and disgusting I am. If you looked at a child and told him he was stupid every day, he’d believe it and not become anything. If you tell yourself you’re fat and disgusting every day, your body accepts that and you stay the same. Change your thoughts. Instead of weighing and focusing on numbers, I take pictures. I watch my clothing change. Last November I bought size 18s at Torrid. By April I was buying 16s. That’s enough convincing for me. I know it’s working. The scales don’t tell it all.
Lastly, how do I make time? Guys I’m working, juggling 6 kids and a husband and a dog. To say I feel like a chicken with its head cut off is an understatement. It’s a struggle. But I make time bc it’s important to me. And exercising isn’t just going to the gym. We hike, go for walks, play soccer, swim. All of that counts as a workout. I enjoy being active so I make it a priority. If you’re giving all you’ve got to a corporation and coming home to slowly kill yourself with bad food choice and inactivity, what’s the point??? What kind of life is that?
So set yourself some goals. Right now my goal is to exercise 5 days a week. I’m at 3-4 currently. I don’t have a weight loss goal anymore. I have a how healthy can I be goal. A goal to avoid medication at all costs. A goal to really live life and not be a slave to my work or addictions. A goal to drink more water. A goal to be happy no matter what my body looks like. It really is freeing to step off that scale and stop focusing on it so much.
I’m here if you ever need to chat!
Fight for your life and create your own story.