After my Jamaica fiasco with haters, I was afraid to post this one. I changed my mind for two reasons…one, the people that truly love me will celebrate with me, and two there’s a really great story and moral to go with it. So what is it you ask? Well folks, mama got a new to me luxury car today! I’m so excited about this venture!!! So here’s the most common questions and answers before I move onto the actual point of this post.
1) How will you haul six kids in this car?! Well, obviously I won’t. We bought the expedition for hauling six kids….turns out I spend $350+ in gas to haul just me and Liam 90% of the time. I’d rather drive two cars to get us where we need to be for the few times we are all together.
2) What about buying a house? That’s on hold right now. Brett graduates December 2018, so we decided to wait until he’s done with school to actually buy something. That keeps us from dealing with maintenance and lawn care on our own dime while his schedule is so crazy. That and we are building his credit back up from years of torture so we can get a good interest rate. (If ever there’s advice to take from me, it’s don’t get an ex husband/wife. It’s hell on the credit score!)
3) What’d you get??? It’s a 2013 Infiniti G37 and it’s loaded. This is truly the nicest car I’ve ever owned! 😍😍😍
Ok if you’ve stayed with me and aren’t spewing hate at me, let me see if I can bless you or inspire you in some way. Probably 6-8 years ago, my dads plant was hiring. I worked for the hospital and we were barely making ends meet. My mom advised me to apply because it’s good money and a significant amount of time off. This was when I was extremely overweight. One day, my dad showed up at my house and asked to talk. I was blown away because he NEVER came over and definitely not unannounced. He sat down and proceeded to tell me that he didn’t think I was right for this job. “It’s extremely physical and I just don’t think you can handle it.” Were the words he used. He said I had too many issues. What I actually heard was I was likely too big to be able to handle the job. I was heartbroken when he left.
In 2010, my job went to total hell. We had a new office manager that had no clue how to run our office. I stuck it out as long as I could. My hairdresser at the time (also my best boo, Kayla) kept pursuing me to get into the hair business. I thought she was crazy…after all, I had a real job. When my job really started getting to me, my aunt encouraged me to look into hair school. She lived with us and would help us get through as it’s only a 10-12 month program. My husband said go so I did it. I was TERRIFIED. I’d never not had a job since age 15. As soon as I started school, I found out I was pregnant with Sam. The obstacles just kept popping up, but I was determined to finish come hell or high water.
After school, I took a year to take care of the kids and learn everything I could learn before actually going to work. Finally I was ready. I came to Kayla and she offered me to work Saturday’s for $25 while I built clientele. Before long I was part time and then full time. My husband at the time never was thrilled about the hair business. He refused to keep the kids while I worked, would be pissed if I had to buy supplies and pay booth rent. He did not support this at all. Even though there were some days I could make his whole days pay in 4 hours…he just wasn’t having it. So I got a second job. It was the WORST. I’d already gotten a taste of freedom for making my own schedule and I hated sitting in a cubicle 8 hours a day. But I did it until I could afford my booth rent and supplies on my own. I told my Nanny my five year plan was to buy a BMW with the business that I built by myself. My husband rolled his eyes and treated it like a fading trend….continuously giving me hell about working there. It was tough.
After we split, I was living with my mom. Now I didn’t live there free and Brett was bringing in his whopping $98 for pay checks. I was so proud of myself because I was carrying us through with my business. My dad asked me one day what our plan was. I said “Well as soon as Liam is born and I get us back on our feet, I’m going to get us a place to live. I just don’t know how long it’ll take because I don’t know how long I’ll be out with my c-section.” You see if I don’t work, I don’t get paid. There is no short term disability to carry me through. If you no show or cancel, we have to revamp our budget to make it. So my week is always up in the air. My dad responded “You need to get a real job. This is crazy you never know how you’ll survive. You have to take care of those kids and need stability.” I had my mom pushing me to hook up with her friend that owned a beauty school because she was successful. I was going to be successful. And by myself. I didn’t want to ride someone else’s coat tails. I just stayed focused. Two weeks after having Liam via csection I was back at work full time. Many times I carried that ugly little baby in and told my client here hold this kid while I foil. I struggled to find a sitter for months, but I made it work. I did it.
Here I am four years into owning my own business. I have built it while caring for three and then 6 children. I did it with not one of my family members believing in me. It wasn’t until Brett came along that someone saw I could make it. My five year plan was to buy a luxury car, and I did it in four. I did it because never once did I let someone talk me out of my goal. I never let the hard days convince me to quit. The odds have been stacked against me since the day I signed up for beauty school, yet here I am. The moral of this story is not to rub it in your faces that I bought a fancy car. The moral is your brain will convince you to quit when things are hard. Surround yourself with people that believe in you. The positive thinkers. My entire world changed the day I became best friends with Kayla Rittenberg. She challenged me to see the world in a new light and didn’t even mean to. Find super smart successful people and watch them. Learn from them. My oldest friend and favorite former boss, Sandra Saunders taught me sooooooo much about management, professionalism, and customer service. She pushed me constantly and made me learn things even though they “weren’t my job”. She was hard on me and I willingly accepted the responsibility. I’ve been able to apply that to every aspect of my business. My husband, he pushes me to keep going even when I think we are doomed and about to have to take residence under a bridge. My sweetest friend Erin willingly takes on these children at the blink of an eye to help me succeed. But even the naysayers are fuel to the fire. My parents intentions were pure….they didn’t want me to fail and logically a job with guaranteed pay is the only way to succeed. Because they couldn’t see me getting very far, I made sure I did.
And lastly, continue to learn. Read and gain knowledge and stay positive as often as humanly possible. I follow a guy by the name of Geno Stampora. He is incredibly motivating. I read books to make me a better person. I watch every tutorial that pops into my feed. I bleeeeed shampoo and cry tears made of developers. I became the beauty industry so that my children will have a future. And I did it by myself. So I encourage you to pursue your dream and fight to make it your reality. It’s so worth it!
P.S. Kayla loves us 😘 (that’s for you boo)
PPS, I’m gonna need y’all to get on the books because I have a car payment now. Don’t leave me hangin! 😂😂😂